NYC Neuropsychologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez Shares Tips on How to Avoid the V-Day Blues
Just when you have navigated the hurdles of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s as a single woman, now Valentine’s Day is almost here. For many it’s a day to celebrate love and romance with that special someone. Unfortunately, for others it’s their leastfavorite holiday. Whether you just got out of a long-term relationship or you just happen to be single, you may not want to stop and smell the roses on the “most romantic day of the year.” New York City’s neuropsychologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez shares a few heart-healthy tips on how to keep Valentine’s Day from becoming an emotional meltdown.
It’s February 14th, Not Valentine’s Day
When it comes down to it, Valentine’s Day isn’t really a big deal. “Keep in mind that some of those “happy” couples you see while you’re out and about may be putting up a really good front and aren’t as happy as you think,” says Dr. Hafeez. “It’s all about how someone treats you year round, not just on one day when it’s standard for someone to go out of their way in honor of the holiday.” Although Valentine’s Day is meant to be a day that celebrates love, it really is just one day out of the year.
It’s Me, Not You
Be your own Valentine this holiday and pamper yourself by splurging on a day at the spa, a new haircut or a little retail therapy. “You can still celebrate February 14th on your own terms,” says Dr. Hafeez. “Is there something that you’d really love to do, but you’ve been making excuses for why you shouldn’t? Be your own Valentine and treat yourself to something special.”
Be My Valentine
Who says everyone should only get Valentines from those they’re dating? “The day is about love, so send some Valentines to those you love the most – your family and friends,” advises Dr. Hafeez. “You’ll feel good knowing that you made them feel special and maybe even made them dislike the day a little less.”
Send Yourself Flowers
If you are feeling really down about being alone on Valentine’s Day, why not send yourself flowers or chocolates to your place of work?
Avoid Love Triggers
If you are upset about being alone on Valentine’s Day, avoid watching romantic movies and listening to love songs. These types of activities are sure to bring on the love blues.
A Single Girl’s Night In
Order your favorite takeout, pour yourself a glass of your favorite Pinot Noir and watch Meryl Streep and Anne Hathaway duke it out in a fashion war in The Devil Wears Prada – for the gazillionth time. “There’s no problem at all with staying in by yourself on Valentine’s Day. If you’re single and don’t feel like going out, there’s no better way to spend Valentine’s Day,” says Dr. Hafeez.
Accepting What Is & Setting Goals for the Future
If you are alone and sad on Valentines Day, give yourself permission to experience all of your negative emotions. “Remember that your romantic status today does not determine your entire future,” says Dr. Hafeez. “Being single does not mean that there is something broken or wrong with you. Don’t generalize your negative emotions to other aspects of your life. Not having a relationship is hardly tantamount to failure. Your romantic life is only one facet of who you are. It is also something that can change if you are unhappy with it.”
About Dr. Sanam Hafeez
Sanam Hafeez Psy.D
New York State Licensed Neuropsychologist and School Psychologist
Dr. Sanam Hafeez is a New York City based Neuropsychologist and School Psychologist. She is also the founder and director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services, P.C. She is currently a teaching faculty member at Columbia University. Click here to see Dr. Hafeez on Dr. Oz: http://www.doctoroz.com/