The Psychology of Romance: 5 Reasons Why Personality Types Matter


As humans, we crave the love and acceptance of others. Some people may argue that monogamy goes against human nature, and for some people, open relationships are the answer.

Most of us, however, dream of finding our one special person from a young age. Marriage, kids, and a house in the suburbs are high on many of our lists – and for good reason. Sharing your life with your best friend and your lover should be one of the most fulfilling experiences of your life.

In relationships, personalities set the tone for the dynamic of the partnership. That means that personality type is a deciding factor in that relationship’s ability to succeed. Below are five reasons why personality types matter in relationships.

1. Friendship

The cornerstone of all relationships is friendship. Without friendship, your relationship will have no foundation. Relationships that begin with a solid friendship are more satisfying and last longer than those that are based on sexual attraction alone.

Your personality types will determine the success of your friendship and, ultimately, your relationship as a whole.

2. Communication

Communication is grounded in one’s ability to demonstrate agreeableness, assertiveness, and conscientiousness. Your personality type will impact your communication style as a communicator.

People learn to communicate with each other based on their personality type and that will determine if the communication is successful or not. Being clear and concise is a surefire way to ensure that people understand you and boost your confidence. Feeling heard and understood is valuable in any relationship, but particularly in a romantic one.

3. Compromise

The ability to compromise is vital for your relationship to succeed. Many people experience a breakdown in their relationships when one person is continually having to compromise. Introverted personalities, like the ISFJ personality type, are often described as being observant and quietly unassuming – which means that they will have a better understanding of how to compromise in relationships.

4. Respect

Relationships have many intricate and vital separate elements that come together relatively seamlessly. Everyone has a checklist of things they value more than others in relationships. One of these elements is feeling respected and showing respect to your partner.

Respect means that you accept your partner for who they are – which will increase the feelings of trust and well-being. Some personality types are better at showing respect than others, so keep that in mind when choosing your next partner.

5. Dynamic

When examining the association between personality and partnerships, the majority of studies conducted have focused on the ability of humans to interact with one another on a deeper level.

The success of healthy relationships is not determined by the partners sharing the same personality type but rather by the dynamic those two people share when they are together.

To End

People used to believe that opposites attract, and to some degree, they are not wrong – the main thing is that the different personality types match correctly. Your personality type must complement each other, allowing you to be the best version of yourself possible.