Sending your child off to college can be more terrifying than anyone can ever imagine. There is a great possibility for many things to go wrong – how can you even sleep when the thought of your child being alone in a new environment without you keeps disturbing your mind? But since your child has to leave your nest for college someday, then the best you can do is to teach them some few things before they set off to college. This will actually protect them from making reckless decisions that most typical freshmen students make. Here are the 7 things your kids must be taught before they leave your nest for college:
1. You make your own decisions
College students are often frustrated with the social hierarchy in campus, professors’ teaching styles or the restrictions they’ve to go through to get to the administration or the academic advisors. Your child has to understand that some things are inevitable and you don’t have to lay low to fit in the class of the so called ‘popular kids’. Teach your kids to always follow the college’s protocols and at the same time seek necessary help from the dean or the chairman without being afraid whenever they need assistance.
2. Always remember the reason they’re in college
Your kids have to know that not all kids who join college actually graduate at the end of their college years. The number of college drop-outs has been rising at an alarming rate and in spite of what happens, he or she should always purpose to get that degree by the end of the course. Your kids have to know how to avoid distractions or anything else that might set them off from achieving their academic objectives. Get some real life example of people who didn’t graduate from college because of some reckless decisions they made in their freshmen year, and let the kids know that they’re responsible for any decision they make during their first year.
3. Always think about the future
Your children don’t need to wait until they’re in their senior years to start thinking about their future. In college every grade counts – starting with the very first grade you get when you join college to the last one you get when you finally complete your course. But working hard and getting good grades is not everything, your child has to come with competent skills to compete effectively in the working environment after graduation. This can only be achieved if the child gets an internship, or even manages to secure a scholarship. Your children should always be focused on creating a better future for themselves.
4. Make friends but take care of your self
Good friends can be useful in college, but they can’t earn you a degree nor get you a job. The choice of friends they make should not in any way interfere with their academics or the decisions they make. Your children have to know that they might even meet their future husbands or wives in college, but some of the relationships they might get into will not last and should not interfere with the rightful decisions they make concerning their future.
5. Always be hygienic
Since your child will not be staying in a room alone, then he or she should be equally responsible for keeping the room clean. In other words, your kids should be ready to work with their fellow room mates in keeping their rooms tidy. Teach your children how to vacuum clean the house before they set off for college. This should go along with lessons on how to groom themselves and be confident enough to interact with others.
6. Never be intimidated
Your children should never be intimidated by their senior students, fellow freshmen or even their lecturers and professors. They have to know that even the most learned professors in campus were once freshmen and should instead learn from them instead of being intimidated by their qualifications. Senior students, on the other hand, have nothing special over them apart from joining the college before them and have no right to intimidate anyone.
7. Have fun
Being too serious with things while in college can actually affect your children’s physiological stability as well as their academic success. Your children must have fun while in college – they must create time to ‘release stress’, attend campus events and even go out once in a while. Let your children create some extra time to hung out with friends and at the same time laugh to freshen-up from the work load in class.
Charles Bowers is a marriage consultant. He also blogs to keep a healthy marriage, developing good relationship with your kids and other helpful advice to keep your family happy.