When you marry someone, you want things between you to work. Presumably, you didn’t go through this legal process because you want to be with them for six months or a year. That’s why, in the typical marriage ceremony, you’ll hear those words, “till death do you part.”
However, many marriages don’t work out. Maybe there’s a wonderful honeymoon period, but then things change. As you both settle into the routine, you realize that you’re not as perfect for each other as you’d thought.
You have to work at every relationship sometimes, and every marriage. It won’t always be easy. What you’d hope is that you can work things out if you’re going through a rocky patch.
In this article, we’ll look at some possible divorce indications. These don’t guarantee you’re heading in that direction, but they’re certainly warning signs.
You Fight All the Time
If you’re looking at potential divorce signs, communication is where to begin. Everyone communicates with each other a little differently. Some couples are competitive or combative, and that’s not necessarily a trouble sign.
Still, there’s a difference between a fiery relationship and a never-ending brawl. Maybe you’re:
- Always screaming at each other
- Constantly bickering about small things
Some couples seem to enjoy conflict to some extent. They might quarrel and then make up.
This can get old fast, though. It can exhaust you to come home from work and know that a fight probably awaits you.
A little disagreement now and then is normal, but if you’re ready for verbal combat every moment of the day, it’s not likely the marriage will succeed in the long term.
You Don’t Speak to One Another Anymore
The opposite of you and your spouse fighting all the time is not speaking to each other at all. That’s another potential divorce sign. If you don’t talk, it can mean:
- You don’t know how to communicate with one another
- You both feel like you’ve run out of things to say
In a marriage, the other person should be the most interesting person in the world to you. You might not have conversation topics lined up to discuss with them every moment, but you shouldn’t have any trouble talking to them at least some of the time.
If you’re completely silent in each other’s presence, and it seems to be that way the majority of the time, that’s not a good sign. It means you have no common ground, and there may not be a path forward for you as a couple.
There is No Physical Intimacy
Sex is a part of most marriages. Some people have it more than others, and that’s a matter of how high your sex drives are. You might have it every day or a couple of times a month. Either way is fine, as long as both you and your spouse feel satisfied.
If you’re no longer having sex, that could signal a troubled marriage. Even if you’re not having sex, you should at least still initiate physical contact, like snuggling, stroking your spouse’s hair, holding their hand, etc.
If you’re not doing any of that, it could mean you’re not feeling affectionate toward each other anymore. If so, you’ll probably have to talk about what’s going on with you, or you may have to see a marriage counselor. If you can’t do those things, divorce might be on the horizon.
You Have No Common Interests Anymore
The best marriages are those where each individual has their alone time, and also you have things you enjoy doing together. That way, you won’t get sick of each other’s company, but you’ll cherish your couple’s activities.
If you can’t find any reason to spend time together, you might be living under the same roof, but you’re already living separate lives. You might try to find TV shows or movies you can watch together. You could play video games together.
You might cook meals and eat them together, or you could spend some time lying in bed, each of you with a book. These are companionable times where you bond and further cement the relationship.
If you don’t do any of that, it’s another intimacy deficiency sign. If the marriage is going to last, you should have at least a few common activities you enjoy.
If your partner is not your world’s center, problems are an inevitability. Look for the signs we mentioned, and if you see them, understand that your relationships might be in rough waters.