You have been looking to have someone new in your life, or perhaps find a bride. You have checked out some good online dating sites and you have finally met someone. You got talking, texting, and all. And then the time has arrived for you to finally meet in person.
First dates can be quite scary. The thought of going on that date with her can cause you to have sweaty palms! Your mind is flooded with imagination as to how it will all turn out. Of course, you want to make a good first impression. You want to pick the right things to say at the right time. As the popular saying goes, ‘’first impressions matter’’, and oftentimes, the impression you create on your first physical meeting does affect how it turns out for you.
Apart from the fact that looking great is important, even more, vital is what you say during the conversation. Yes, you can either raise or mar your chances of a subsequent date by the type of conversation you have on the first date. It is all too easy to get carried away during your conversation as you try to keep it flowing. Since you want to present the best version of yourself, you need to be careful as it will be counterintuitive to ask certain prying questions.
With this in mind, we have compiled 10 of the worst first date questions you could ever ask on meeting with your potential bride-to-be for the first time.
‘’Tell me about yourself’’
Yes, you indeed want to get to know her, but this certainly doesn’t cut it. It is surely going to feel like it’s a job interview. Many people agree that they are taken aback by such a direct question. People have a hard time getting to answer and so, you don’t want her to be put on edge. What shall you do then? You could ask specific questions on an aspect of her daily life or hobbies. For example, you can ask, ‘’what are you passionate about?’’. This way, your date will be more eager to respond to the question.
‘’What would you like to do tonight?’’
You are a man. This question may sound like you want to give preference to her choice or wishes, but it sends the wrong message on a first date that you haven’t gotten things planned out beforehand. You should have got this sorted out first and then, when you meet up, say what you have in mind already.
‘’How many guys have you slept with?’’
This is a no-no! Although you have got to talk with her, you do not know her that well. It is a very personal question to ask at the first meeting. It can put her off immediately. You might just be giving the impression that you are there to scrutinize her or you only want a fling. Avoid asking this question at all costs if you want to take things to the next level.
‘’So, about your ex. What went wrong?’’
It is inappropriate to want to know details about past relationships at this stage. Negative feelings might just be stirred up if she begins to talk about her past relationship, however that turned out to end. This meeting should be about just you and her. No one else.
‘’Why are you still single?’’
Asking this question implies that you think something is not right. How could she be so attractive, yet single? It is in your favor if this lady is not seeing someone else because you have a chance to be with her. She has her reasons why she is still single, but that is not information you should be privy to for now. Express your gladness at meeting her single.
‘’How’s your relationship with your parents?’’
Among the top topics to avoid on the first date is one that involves private relationships. This question can create an awkward moment instantly. It shifts the focus to a topic that she may not be comfortable with. It’s like prying into an area that is absolutely none of your business. If her parents are not together or perhaps deceased, you may have succeeded in stirring up bad emotions in her.
‘’Where do you see this relationship going?’’
This question smacks of too much optimism. You have concluded already that you are in a relationship. That would seem like jumping the gun or being too suggestive. You don’t want her to feel rushed. So avoid asking suchlike questions.
‘’Do you want kids?’’
This is a somewhat spooky question to ask. One of the topics to avoid on a first date is one that deals with having kids. It is possible to find brides who state it on their profile if they are open to having kids or not. Of course, it is important to know her preference when it comes to having a family but remember that this is just a first date.
‘’What do you think about me?’’
An impression you never want to create is appearing to be self-conscious or not confident. Asking such a question is a sure way to make you seem unsure about yourself, and that you are too concerned about peoples’ opinions of you.
‘’Nice shoes. How much did they cost you?’’
Look for a better way to compliment what she is wearing, but never ask about the cost. Asking about prices sends a wrong message about what you consider important to you.
To find a wife online, there’s probably going to be a handful of first dates and meetings. You don’t want to lose out on having a great woman in your life because of a botched first date. Understanding the rules of privacy and applying them in your conversation will help avoid awkward moments on that first date.
Jamie Polsters is an online dating coach who is a contributor to YourMailOrderBride. With over 15 years of experience in the online dating industry, he has contributed immensely to assisting hundreds of couples to meet and build stable relationships. Most people who have attended his workshops and training sessions are now happily married, enjoying a healthy relationship with their wives and husbands.