Living a self-ish lifestyle affirms that your existence, no matter how subtle or disruptive your ripples may be to the world around you, matters! This lifestyle requires you to ask. “How am I impacting society with my existence?” are my interactions with the world within me and around me based on quantity or quality? Am I happy? Is it healthy?
In an over-stimulated society of instant gratifications through an app for everything, social media filters, and information overload through the internet, everything is zooming by so fast that most are being swept up in the frenzy and left without a strong foundation of SELF to hold on to.
Who are you? What do you stand for? What are your strengths? What unique superpowers do you possess? What weaknesses or shadows do you recognize within yourself so you can process and transform it quickly? What are your go-to resources to overcome? Which aspects of yourself are you most comfortable with–mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual? Most importantly, is this healthy and serving me to my best and highest good?
The ability to be honest with the deepest parts of yourself will reveal your true nature. One that is aligned with both your human/Ego and Spirit self. You will be living, in real-time, soulfully. Moving, experiencing, threading, and living in harmony within yourself and all that surrounds you. Isn’t that nice? The truth is, living a self-ish lifestyle is the practice of being in your power rather than giving it away to the people, situations, or circumstances around you. It is not about serving from your cup but fill your cup up so much that you are serving from the overflow of your cup. Serve from the saucer and be selective on who touches the rim of your cup.
- You are a spiritual being having a human experience
- You are equipped with the resources you need to overcome
- Your perspective becomes your reality.
Self-ish lifestyle is the ultimate form of self-care. Fear, anger, grief, anxiety, rants, exists but with a self-ish regimen, it is not fed. It is acknowledged, faced, and processed. We recognize that it exists but so do triumphs, confidence, hope, love, courage, and faith. This self care regimen of shifting perspective moves you away from the powerless narrative of a victim mentality to the triumphant self-champion. Negative self-talk won’t be tolerated and transparency is advocated resulting in the following:
- Healthy perspectives
- Boundaries
- Resilience
- Courage
- Self-faith
- Resourcefulness
- Emotional intelligence
- Confidence
- Self-esteem
- Self-validation
But practicing living a self-ish lifestyle requires you to practice accountability, responsibility, and self-awareness leaving you to do the same for the people around you. This is the highway to self-discovery and personal growth. Are you ready?
About the Author
Krista Nerestant is a practicing life coach, educated and certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and The Satir Method of Transformational Systemic Therapy to heal family dynamics and trauma, and an advocate for women and children. She hosts a podcast, Self-Care Tuesdays, that is dedicated to encouraging, empowering, and elevating the journey of self-care. She’s teaching women it’s OK to be “Self-ish”!
She is also the author of Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma.
