Having sexual fantasies is completely natural and can be one of the ways to enhance your sex life with your partner. Communicating these to your partner may sometimes seem tricky in that you might not know how to or you may hesitate given social or cultural construct regarding sexual fantasies.
Sexual fantasies are sometimes frowned upon or not discussed or recognized as acceptable, which in some cases makes you want to suppress them instead. However, a big part of getting your sexual fantasies fulfilled relies on how open your communication is with your partner and your dynamics.
With that, here are some ways to get your partner to fulfill your sexual fantasies.
- Express Your Sexual Fantasies
When it comes to sex with your partner, you have to be able to express yourself so that they know exactly what you’re feeling and thinking. Hoping they guess or somehow pick up on clues you may have hinted at may often lead to disappointment when they fail.
Some of the ways that you can express your fantasies to your partner include;
- Have A Discussion
One of the easiest and proven ways to express and communicate your sexual fantasies with your partner is by talking about it with them. You can set a fun date with your partner where you can openly discuss your fantasies. A movie night at your place, for instance, or a simple dinner wherein you’ll cook them their favorite dish.
Perhaps your sexual fantasies include introducing sex toys to spice up your intimate moments. Discussing while partaking in an activity that you both enjoy can make the discussion lighter and less daunting, and your partner may be more relaxed and receptive.
- Write A Letter
If you’re feeling a bit creative, you can express yourself by writing a letter detailing your sexual fantasies to your partner. You can write a short story with the two of you as the lead characters in an intimate scene, and this is where you let them know your fantasies and how you’d wish for them to fulfill them. A letter may lead to a face-to-face discussion about it, and you can elaborate further on your sexual fantasies.
- Attend Therapy
Sometimes therapy may be needed for you to be able to communicate your sexual fantasies to your partner. Past trauma and sexual anxieties may be some of the reasons you struggle to express yourself freely and get your partner to fulfill your sexual fantasies.
In that case, a therapist can help you discover the root problems that lead to such blocks, which may stem from childhood or repressed memories. Having navigated beyond the sexual surface, you may be in a better position to communicate with your partner better, have your sexual fantasies fulfilled, and reignite the spark in your relationship.
The same goes for your partner; if they struggle fulfilling your sexual fantasies, although you’ve made efforts to communicate with them, they may have repressed emotions or thoughts and experiences unrelated to you or your fantasies. Therapy can help you and your partner get into a healthy sexual space where you can both enjoy being intimate with your sexual fantasies in mind.
- Take The Lead
When being intimate with your partner, you can take the lead by showing your partner what you’d enjoy in terms of your fantasies. For instance, if it’s a sex toy that you wish they’d explore, you can bring it with you and show them how you’d like them to use it. Showing your partner exactly how you want to experience sex may require you to be confident and vulnerable enough with them for you to take the lead and enjoy.
If you feel that your partner may reject your suggestion or aren’t sure if they are comfortable with the idea, consider discussing it first before you take the lead. They may have reasons why they shy away from your fantasies which could be rooted in reasons you may need to understand.
- Listen To Fantasy Content Together
Today, there are various media types that discuss sexual fantasies, experiences, and suggestions. You can use those to express and communicate your fantasies. You can look for content you resonate with and then introduce this to your partner.
As you both listen to the sexual fantasy content, you may begin to discuss it in the context of your own sex lives. Exploring sexual content together can be a form of intimacy itself. By the time you get to implement the sexual fantasies in your sex life, you’d have become more than comfortable with the idea and enjoy the process.
Conclusion
Getting your partner to fulfill your sexual fantasies requires open communication and patience. You can have discussions about your fantasies or write a story. Showing them exactly how you want your fantasies to come true is another option. And in some cases, you can both go to therapy to help you navigate your fantasies and help you both be in a healthy headspace where you can express yourselves freely.
