Sex toys… A great way to play with your partner. And for women and men, this topic is not taboo, but it can be a little bit daunting, especially if you and your partner are new to one another. But… if you don’t ask, you don’t know, right?
It might be that you’ve passed a bit of a milestone in the relationship. Maybe things in the bedroom have just gone quieter… or maybe there are metaphorical walls, or some boredom creeping in.
So in this article, we’re suggesting a dildo. “But why?” I hear you asking. And this is where it gets really good… Because it’s one of the sexiest additions you can add to your bedroom escapades hands down, and it’ll get you (or your partner) gasping for more!
So let’s get you organized so you might know how to choose a great one for your fun in the bedroom with your lover or significant other.
I know what I like, but is that the right one?
In 2013, the sex toy industry was a monumental 15-billion-dollar industry in the USA and this is ever-growing. In fact, dildos are popular for good reason, but how do we know which one? We’ll explore this so you can delve into what you (or your partner) might like best of all.
Size – This is important. You’ll want to make sure you know the size you need, and this is so you get pleasure (not pain) from your toy. The size can make or break a sexy night or day of fooling around.
Features – Does it look like the real thing? And do you even want it to? The color and texture will be important here, and so will the overall look of the toy.
Brand – A quality brand should be important to the user, and most manufacturers will have excelling standards with phthalate-free materials used which are body safe and that will last well.
Point of Entry – Is it for the vagina or anus? You won’t want to mix toys for hygiene or reasons, so always buy separate ones.
The rule of thumb for the perfect sizing guide…
Much like a piece of clothing, lingerie or underwear, dildos also come in various sizes and shapes. If you are not sure where to start, check out this dildo sizing guide to get help picking the perfect size for you. Something too big will not bring pleasure, and something too small might make you wonder when the pleasure is even going to start. And this might make the whole scenario null and void. So yes, size is extremely important here.
It’s not all that important whether you choose a vibrating or non-vibrating dildo in the scheme of it all, and the perfectly-sized dildo is a subjective choice for everyone, so having an idea about how you want to use the dildo will help you to better to determine the sexual goals you wish to achieve.
Ask yourself (and your partner), “What is it for?” “Is it to tease or stimulate the inner or outer vagina, or both areas?” And “Is it for the vagina or anus, primarily?”
Last (but not least) “Does it vibrate, and do I even want it to?” Other questions might include its role with regard to oral usage as a teasing, fantasy or build-up effect, and its overall appearance for its role within your sessions, for both fantasy and/or utilization.
Get more ‘bang’ for your buck
Sometimes, you just don’t have enough time in the day, so anything that will expedite the crescendo without taking a really long time can be sexy and time-conscious. Some couples have a regime; certain minutes with certain activities, and including these toys at the ready. They’ve never been happier, in fact. Remember; it’s whatever moves ‘mountains’ for you both that counts. Discuss this openly and then get ready to rumble…
Having an arsenal of different dildos of different textures and colors will also spice up the variety too. Getting more ‘bang’ for your buck might mean shopping around for the best toys, and making sure you can afford them too.
Your freedom of choice is the bees’ knees
Toys can certainly pave the way to bringing relationships forward, and the humble dildo can be that one thing you’ve been searching for to light up your world, for foreplay, all afternoon play, or to tease and excite during the lovemaking process on the whole.
The beauty of adding a dildo as a toy is that you can use it when (and if) you want. And, if you’re partner is into it too, then you can turn the tables on them and ignite their fantasies as well. Always talk to your lover or partner, so you might explore this whole new and exciting adventure together. It’ll be the bees’ knees, but you’ll never know it unless you delve into the honey pot of conversation.
