Spring is here, and while you’re busy cleaning out your life, now is the perfect time to clean out your toxic relationships. Relationship experts, Dr. Carmen Harra and Alexandra Harra, authors of The Karma Queens’ Guide to Relationships: The Truth About Karma in Relationships share their tips on how to avoid toxic relationships and make relationships that are meaningful and lasting.
- Perform your inner work. Before you can begin any new affair, you must perform your inner work: detach from the past, forgive others, clear your karma, and eradicate negative emotions. Once there is balance and harmony within yourself, you will attract a relationship of reflective qualities.
- Understand what you need. So as not to hurt anyone (including yourself), understand what it is that you need before seeking a suitor: do you just want to have fun, have a family, or have something in-between? If you genuinely don’t want to be in a relationship, don’t start a fling with a person who craves commitment. Similarly, if you’re keen on embarking on a serious relationship, don’t settle for a person whose dedication can only last a few nights. Know also that what you want.
- See beyond the season. Don’t look at a budding relationship as a temporary fling, because you will turn it into that. A relationship may have good chances to flourish, but if you continue to regard it as a fling, you will stifle its potential and create unnecessary boundaries. Give a good fling a chance to thrive beyond the spring and summer months and into the years ahead. Allow it to become what it’s meant to become. A healthy human bond does not come with an expiration date.
Dr. Harra is an internationally acclaimed intuitive psychologist, best-selling author, WABC radio show host, TV personality and relationship expert, who has worked with Hillary and Bill Clinton, Jennifer Lopez, Courtney Cox, Whoopi Goldberg and countless other celebrities. Alexandra is a certified life coach, best-selling author, professional writer, cover model, and a contributor for the Huffington Post.
