Ah, weddings—the flowers, the music, the tearful vows, and, let’s be real, the open bar. If you’ve just entered the phase of your life where wedding invitations are starting to roll in, congratulations—you’ve unlocked a whole new adulting milestone. But before the big day for your friend or family member arrives, there are a few wedding guest etiquette rules to keep in mind. So without further ado, here’s what you should know before going to your first wedding as an adult.
Be Sure To RSVP
First things first—RSVPing is not optional. That little card (or email link) is your ticket to the party. The couple needs to know exactly how many people to plan for, so don’t wait until the last second to respond. Even if you’ve already told them in person that you’ll be there, officially RSVPing makes things much easier on the soon-to-be husband and wife. Also, if your plans change last-minute after RSVPing “yes,” make sure you notify them ASAP.
Dress Accordingly
The number one rule of wedding fashion? Never outshine the couple! (It’s not your show, after all.) Primarily, that means no wearing white. Look carefully at the invitation, as most couples will include a dress code, whether it’s “cocktail attire,” “black tie optional,” or “festival chic.” Fortunately, there are plenty of great wedding guest dresses for every type of ceremony, so be sure to take the time to find one that works for you. And remember, comfy shoes are your besties—especially if you plan to destroy the dance floor later.
Plan To Stay the Whole Time
It’s tempting to sneak out early—maybe you’ve got work in the morning, or maybe the DJ is anti-Beyoncé. But leaving right after the ceremony or before the cake is served is a no-go. Weddings are planned meticulously, and every part—from the first dance to the speeches—is something the couple genuinely wants you to be part of. While it’s not illegal to leave early, at least plan to soak it all in, from the “I do’s” to the sparklers at the send-off.
Arrive Early
Ever walk into a movie after it’s started? Awkward, right? A wedding is not the time to make a late entrance. Aim to arrive at least 15 minutes before the ceremony starts. This gives you time to find a seat and soak in the beautiful ambiance without interrupting the bride’s big walk down the aisle. Trust us—you don’t want to be the person everyone turns to look at during the vows because your heels made a dramatic entrance on the wooden floor.
Don’t Forget the Gift
The final thing to know before going to your first wedding as an adult is, yes, you need to bring a gift. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, but it should be meaningful. Most couples will have a registry—try to stick to it. They spent time putting that list together for a reason. If you know the couple well enough, you can try to be creative. For example, custom cornhole boards can make a great wedding gift, but make sure you find something truly meaningful to them. If everything is out of your budget, contribute what you can or opt for cash. We’re sure they’ll appreciate whatever you decide to give.
