Have you ever felt the stress of staring at your closet without finding a thing to wear? Your wardrobe, while packed with clothes, seems to contain nothing that feels right. After too many minutes of trying to figure it out, you throw on your old standbys, the go-tos that always come through in a pinch. Perhaps it’s your flat front trousers, button down blouse and blazer. Or maybe it’s your yoga pants, tank and cascading cardigan. The truth is, you can’t be bothered to put anything else together because you don’t have the time or energy to do that. So you leave your house in the same old thing, and sink into the knowing that another day has passed when your style gets put on the back burner.
But there’s good news. Since style is an evolution of choices — from what you wear to how you want to look — you can begin to home in on yours by making a new choice. Choose to find the time and energy to look and be your best! And once you’ve set this intention, you’re on your way to a better life – one that’s fueled by confidence and sustained with ease.
Here Are 3 Steps To Define Your Style For A Better Life
- KNOW YOUR STYLE VISION
Your personal style is a journey, constantly evolving as you grow and change. In order to align it with not only who you are, but the person you want to be, you must get super clear on what it looks like. How do you want your style to be?
Rather than trying to figure it out immediately, take time to familiarize yourself with the details of women whose styles resonate with you. Then ask yourself what exactly you like. Often it’s not the clothes they wear, but rather how they put them together. While you may notice the flattering cut of a perfectly fitting boyfriend jean, there’s an effortlessness that’s relayed in head-turning style. It relies on a certain know-how in outfit assembling, along with an individualized spirit of expression.
To help clarify your style vision, meditation and journaling are excellent tools you could turn to. By sitting either in stillness, or with pen and paper, you tap into a deeper knowing that’s tuned into your truth of being which ultimately gets reflected in your unique style.
- OWN YOUR STYLE VISION
In order to look amazing, you must feel amazing which means you have to be comfortable in your skin! And while body confidence plays a big part in this equation, it’s also about having the clothes that complement your style vision. Is your wardrobe up to date with how you want to look?
To align your outfit options with your style vision, you’ll need a closet refresh. Carve out some ME time —perhaps in the evening, after everyone has gone to sleep. Or on the weekend when no one is around — so you can grab a class of wine or green juice, and keep a relaxed attitude with no judgements! Start by taking a good, long look at what you have, and try stuff on. If there are items that no longer fit in silhouette, size, or lifestyle, seriously consider why they’re still in your wardrobe. Those denim cut-offs from 5 years ago may have been amazing back then, but now always seem to hike up too high leaving you uncomfortable on so many levels.
You must love how your clothes fit, but even more importantly, you must love how your body feels! True body confidence goes beyond acceptance, to taking pride in all your body does for you. A regular exercise routine is a total confidence booster that’ll help you move through life with more ease, a key component of looking and being your best.
- LIVE YOUR STYLE VISION
The best style statements aren’t about the individual items of clothing. It’s the individualized spirit of how the items are put together, and worn that define style. To bring your style vision to life, you’ll need more ME time to play with your wardrobe. This is about getting creative and having fun. Pair pieces with items you never would’ve thought of. Go for the bold! Think of it as an experiment, and see what happens if you put garment X with garment Z.
To help increase your creative flow, you need to keep these channels open. Put on your favorite music during your closet refresh, and feel free to break for a spontaneous dance party. Or sing at the top of your lungs! Express yourself as only you can – it’s a fundamental element of finding your style.
Personal style relies on self awareness, body confidence and creative living. When you’ve tapped into these aspects of who you are, your style will become second nature. Outfit planning then gets easier, and your life will simplify as you live in alignment with the woman you want to be.
Elysha Lenkin is a successful fashion stylist who helps women bring their style visions to life. With a holistic approach, she shows women how to activate the connection between life and style for more confidence and ease. Carrie Underwood, Tina Fey, Serena Williams and Hayden Panettiere are just a few of the many clients she has styled shoots for. Her blog, Mind Body Soul Stylist (http://elyshalenkin.com/blog/), combines lifestyle how-to’s with personal narratives for a wealth of information and inspiration on styling from the inside out.
If you would like help in articulating your style vision, please contact her at: [email protected]
